It's not your fault.

Our family situation in childhood has consequences for all of us, but only some were emotionally abused by a narcissistic parent. This is insidious, however, because certain forms of abusive behaviour are still common in society (e.g. instrumental parentification) and a person often only realises what they have been through in retrospect. This book will enable you to recognise the toxic narrative that persists within you as a critical inner voice and will give you the tools to silence it. It will also help you to identify unhealthy relationships based on trauma bonding, from which you are unable to break free due to learned relationship patterns that are passed down from generation to generation.

In order to deal with traumatic reactions, a person creates coping mechanisms, which you can identify with the help of this book. They protected you in childhood, but now they are complicating your life.

Although the abuser is to blame, you must take responsibility for making amends – this is the only way you will be able to build a strong identity, set healthy boundaries, and regain your lost sense of self-worth. And know that you do not have to forgive the abuser. On the contrary, according to the authors, you need to kill the hope that the person will change.